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Daniel Crandall's avatar

Thank you for sharing Jennifer's article. It brings to mind what I'm often up against during counseling sessions with clients. I don't think it an overstatement to say none of those whom I see in my counseling office view their thinking as behavior. To them it just seems to happen. And whatever thoughts - as depression- or anxiety-inducing they may be – are "true". It becomes disorienting to practice critical thinking. And like physical exercise, mental exercise, i.e., critical thinking, is painful in the beginning. And in the long run highly beneficial toward mental health.

Thinking is a behavior one can change. It's a behavior that can be rational or irrational, reasonable or unreasonable. It is a behavior that can be rooted in an objective reality or unhinged & floating through some subjective aether. One, however, has to practice taking an objective stance toward one's thoughts to make these distinctions, to exercise critical thinking. Unfortunately, how we use language to express thoughts is a big obstacle in this process.

Almost everyone begins the sharing of thoughts with phrase "I feel …". Or if asked about an event or circumstance, the question more often than not begins, "How do you feel about …". It may not be an overstatement to say EVERYONE characterizes thoughts as "feelings". Feelings are emotions (angry, afraid, sad, happy, etc) & sensations (pain, tension, comfort, relaxed). Feelings are simply a response or reaction to some input. That input may be external or internal. Imagine stubbing your toe on a chair leg after your spouse moved the chair. You feel pain (sensation), then get angry or irritated (emotions). And then comes the thoughts – 'Why did she leave the chair there!?', 'Why did he get these stupid dining set!?'. A great example of this process is when George Bailey blows up at his family before storming out & wishing he'd never been born.

It may be my mission in life to get people to stop saying "I feel …" when asking about or sharing thoughts, and start saying, "I think …" or asking "What do you think about …". Then one can begin the process of exercising Critical Thinking. Identify the thought. Look at it objectively. Let it go, and be open to change if the thought is irrational, unreasonable, and does not correspond to reality.

The same objective stance can be taken toward emotions & sensations if properly framed. That is, "I feel angry", "I feel depressed", "I feel happy". Not, by the way, "I'm angry!" or "I'm depressed" or even "I'm happy" as this identifies oneself AS the emotion. You are not your emotions. Nor are you your thoughts.

You can practice this exercise: Pay attention to how often media will ask interviewees how they "feel" about a situation, and then listen to the sometimes rational, sometimes irrational thoughts expressed.

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Reading is more than reading. I remember when we studied the origin of words and their roots. It helped one to "deconstruct" a word and be able to make a good educated guess of what a word might mean if you encountered it for the first time and then, analyze the context of it. Also, understanding how languages borrow from one another is a testament to how cultures and languages evolve. This is a beautiful thing that is lost when education is shallow and teaches to the lowest common denominator. Oh, and do teachers make kids use a dictionary to build vocabulary or is that just too difficult? When I read comments on many websites, there are those who I can understand that English was probably not their first language, but then there are those who just didn't "get" spelling.

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